In Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak, seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents’ divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that “children are resilient” and “children are happy when their parents are happy”? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing?
Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors–women and men, young and old, single and married–have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents’ divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child’s family impacts the human heart in universal ways.
Though highly unusual for a Vatican Cardinal to publicly endorse a self-published book by a relative unknown, Cardinal Sarah had this to say about Primal Loss:
”Your writing on this subject is both timely and urgent. How necessary it is to support and defend the beauty of the Christian family as revealed to us by God from the very first pages of Sacred Scripture! In front of the growing attacks against the family, studies such as your own show the damaging and enduring consequences of a world vision, which denies the value of sacrifice and giving one’s life to the end for the other. I will certainly do what I can to promote Primal Loss.”